“We never met, you and I
We were always inside, we were somewhere inside
one another. And I’ll live without you love,
but what good is one glove, without the other?”
From the song “Gentlemen” by @mewithoutyou
Are you complete within yourself?
Thinking of love, especially in the wake of post-valentines happenings, can lead some to believe they are incomplete because they did not have anyone to focus on, or someone to focus on them.
However, there is always one person you an think of, that you maybe wouldn’t think of first: YOU!
If you believe you are complete only as a pair, what is missing from your- self?
Kahlil Gibran wrote in The Prophet: On Marriage
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
Gibran writes of marriage as two separate entities, complete and mighty in themselves, travelling parallel paths. Supportive in their distance and sharing of themselves, these sets each possess something that is not the other.
The question then becomes, what does my glove have that the other doesn’t?
One is right and one is left, they can not be worn on the same hand.
Keep this in mind, especially if you are someone who struggles with loving yourself. You are not a set, you are one of two, and each is important in their own right.
Namaste, beautiful people!