Category: Interpersonal Relationships

V&E Animal Omens: Cardinal

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A cardinal visited me this morning outside my window & since I usually don’t catch moments like these I wondered what omens exist for Cardinals. In Alchemy, birds are symbolic for the purified soul freed from earthly constraints. 
An encounter with the Cardinal it is an omen for all things love: self-love, harmony, confidence, romance, passionate relationships, power dynamics, and monogamy.

6 Things I Learned About Empowering Myself from Sia’s Elastic Heart

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Relationships end. Breakups can be awful. Whether we decide to end it or our partners do, there is always a period of adjustment and mourning.

Our logical analytical mind wants to swoop in, be the hero, and save us from our emotions so give it something to do instead of breaking down the same situations over and over again.

I have a tendency to over analyze things, which can be self-defeating; this is an example of the kind of analysis that is helpful.

Since Sia’s Elastic Heart came out I have played it (sometimes on repeat)  to bring me back to myself even when I am in the thralls of avoidance: dying my hair, remaking my bed (even if it’s clean) moving furniture, excessive baking, walking, you get the picture…

Listening to music, reading a book or watching a show can give us the inspiration we need to exercise the aspects of ourselves that left unattended can drive us crazy. We can find empowerment instead of self-defeat.

ASMR for Procrastination

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Relaxing video for procrastinators. ASMRtist Olivia Kissper uses water sounds and face brushing to help relax you and discusses procrastination and how she believes we can overcome the habit.

I Once Forgave Someone Because of Stars

My Forgiveness Story He was my high school bully, he was one of many. He stood out because he could reach the most vulnerable parts of me, the places where I still expressed hope and confidence, and make them seem ugly. I transferred schools because of him, and the next year he was there, the

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I Diagnose Myself a Scapegoat 

What is a Scapegoat?

To put it plainly: a person blamed for the wrongdoings, mistakes, or faults of others. What does that mean exactly?

It means that if you are someone’s scapegoat, you are going to be the reason someone else did or said something, or the reason something happened, or more broadly YOU are the problem.

The scapegoat is given a tremendous amount of power, but ends up feeling weak, shameful, pitiable, guilty, or that they are evil, bad, or wrong. In come cases, wrongness becomes inseparable from the way they see themselves: they can mistake what others say for their true identities.

In families, the scapegoat tends to be the person the family collectively identifies as a source of their dysfunctional behavior. The idea being that if the person to blame for familial disruption is somehow fixed, then the family will be fixed.

Untold Stories and Acceptance

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This morning I was struck by the realization that while the internet can be a volatile and scary place, there are some people who have discovered safe little corners where they can connect with others and feel safe enough to share their lives and their stories. I find sharing online tremendously difficult and often feel embarrassed by it,

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What It Was Like

Originally posted on Ebben Wilde:
Ode to my lost child What was it like? It was like my soul cramping and ripping itself from my body. It was a fire in my loins that I didn’t want to put out. I couldn’t put out the flames. I’d rather take the burning from the inside then…