Month: June 2017

6 Things I Learned About Empowering Myself from Sia’s Elastic Heart

Relationships end. Breakups can be awful. Whether we decide to end it or our partners do, there is always a period of adjustment and mourning.

Our logical analytical mind wants to swoop in, be the hero, and save us from our emotions so give it something to do instead of breaking down the same situations over and over again.

I have a tendency to over analyze things, which can be self-defeating; this is an example of the kind of analysis that is helpful.

Since Sia’s Elastic Heart came out I have played it (sometimes on repeat)  to bring me back to myself even when I am in the thralls of avoidance: dying my hair, remaking my bed (even if it’s clean) moving furniture, excessive baking, walking, you get the picture…

Listening to music, reading a book or watching a show can give us the inspiration we need to exercise the aspects of ourselves that left unattended can drive us crazy. We can find empowerment instead of self-defeat.

by Elizabeth Invictus

V&E Words: Diligence

Diligence is a keyword for our relationship to work and goals. But is it too limited? What is missing?
We have to know where we are going based on where others have gone before, choose how to get there, have a reason for getting there, buy the ticket, we cannot choose the route because it is predetermined, and we cannot leave unless there is a predetermined stop. Sound familiar?

by Elizabeth Invictus

Avoidance Habits

Whatever we continuously do in place of the things we are actually supposed to be doing becomes an avoidance habit. Avoidance habits give us the feeling of being productive when we know we are supposed to be producing something else. Like the procrastination cycle from my last post, these habits are perpetual and can become hard to break.
What is avoidance? What is a habit? and what can we learn about avoidance habits to use them to our advantage?

by Elizabeth Invictus