Avoidance Habits

Whatever we continuously do in place of the things we are actually supposed to be doing becomes an avoidance habit. Avoidance habits give us the feeling of being productive when we know we are supposed to be producing something else. Like the procrastination cycle from my last post, these habits are perpetual and can become hard to break.
What is avoidance? What is a habit? and what can we learn about avoidance habits to use them to our advantage?

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I Diagnose Myself a Scapegoat 

What is a Scapegoat?

To put it plainly: a person blamed for the wrongdoings, mistakes, or faults of others. What does that mean exactly?

It means that if you are someone’s scapegoat, you are going to be the reason someone else did or said something, or the reason something happened, or more broadly YOU are the problem.

The scapegoat is given a tremendous amount of power, but ends up feeling weak, shameful, pitiable, guilty, or that they are evil, bad, or wrong. In come cases, wrongness becomes inseparable from the way they see themselves: they can mistake what others say for their true identities.

In families, the scapegoat tends to be the person the family collectively identifies as a source of their dysfunctional behavior. The idea being that if the person to blame for familial disruption is somehow fixed, then the family will be fixed.