Tag: shame

V&E Philosophy of Wellness

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Many of us take a top down approach to our wellness thinking that if we change the way we eat, if we work out, buy ethical products then we are achieving wellness. Yet there is still an upsetting amount of judgement and shame that we put on ourselves and others and the initiative fails. Why is this? Changing your perspective might truly be the first step.

I Once Forgave Someone Because of Stars

My Forgiveness Story He was my high school bully, he was one of many. He stood out because he could reach the most vulnerable parts of me, the places where I still expressed hope and confidence, and make them seem ugly. I transferred schools because of him, and the next year he was there, the

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Untold Stories and Acceptance

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This morning I was struck by the realization that while the internet can be a volatile and scary place, there are some people who have discovered safe little corners where they can connect with others and feel safe enough to share their lives and their stories. I find sharing online tremendously difficult and often feel embarrassed by it,

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Demystifying Wellness: 3 Ideas on Where to Start

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Do you find advice on wellness alienating sometimes? Do you find that some advice is overwhelming and wonder where to start? “I want to cultivate wellness practices and care for myself but some of the advice out there seems too radical and I don’t know where to start” If you can relate, I have compiled a simple list of ideas (not rules) to answer the question: Where do I begin? and the good news is that it has nothing to do with spending money or investing time you don’t have… we are demystifying wellness by taking it back to the beginning!

Shame on You, for Being Who You Are

An introduction to the notions of guilt and shame. In Part one I share some of my experience, learn from Hester Prynn, notice the difference between guilt and shame, and propose that shame, like fear, is the the natural enemy of self-expression.

Voice of the Voiceless: Great Spirits

I am addressing those great spirits who face this violent opposition. Mediocrity is rewarded. This is true and this is real. Be mediocre and it will open many already opened doors for you. Great Spirits rise! We don’t need doors! This is Vehemence! It is time.