I’m a massive fan of self-love. I cherish the idea of us all being wonderful to ourselves and investing the majority of our time and energy… Read more “Self-Love Isn’t Just About You — From The Fringe”
Procrastination Skills are not just the ability to creatively avoid what we are supposed to be doing. They are the skills we develop from prolonged periods of procrastination.
Is thinking opposed to feeling or do they work together? How can we use our feelings to generate wellness? We look at feeling in the body, emotional mind and spirit to see how each aspect utilizes feeling to create impressions that help us in the development of holistic wellness. In order to truly practice holistic wellness a shift has to occur where we take what we have learned from our thinking selves, and through the active application, demonstrate or teach our feeling selves.
Relationships end. Breakups can be awful. Whether we decide to end it or our partners do, there is always a period of adjustment and mourning.
Our logical analytical mind wants to swoop in, be the hero, and save us from our emotions so give it something to do instead of breaking down the same situations over and over again.
I have a tendency to over analyze things, which can be self-defeating; this is an example of the kind of analysis that is helpful.
Since Sia’s Elastic Heart came out I have played it (sometimes on repeat) to bring me back to myself even when I am in the thralls of avoidance: dying my hair, remaking my bed (even if it’s clean) moving furniture, excessive baking, walking, you get the picture…
Listening to music, reading a book or watching a show can give us the inspiration we need to exercise the aspects of ourselves that left unattended can drive us crazy. We can find empowerment instead of self-defeat.
Relaxing video for procrastinators. ASMRtist Olivia Kissper uses water sounds and face brushing to help relax you and discusses procrastination and how she believes we can overcome the habit.
Whatever we continuously do in place of the things we are actually supposed to be doing becomes an avoidance habit. Avoidance habits give us the feeling of being productive when we know we are supposed to be producing something else. Like the procrastination cycle from my last post, these habits are perpetual and can become hard to break.
What is avoidance? What is a habit? and what can we learn about avoidance habits to use them to our advantage?
Ever heard of positive reinforcement? It sounds nice, and in some cases, it can be good for us. However, the effects of positive reinforcement on things like anxiety and procrastination might be surprising to some in that they actually encourage and strengthen the problematic behaviour.
Many of us take a top down approach to our wellness thinking that if we change the way we eat, if we work out, buy ethical products then we are achieving wellness. Yet there is still an upsetting amount of judgement and shame that we put on ourselves and others and the initiative fails. Why is this? Changing your perspective might truly be the first step.